When Your Style Works, Confidence Follows
Above: Imogene Whittle, author of this blog. Personal Stylist in Brisbane and Founder of Spree with Me personal stylists.
“I just want to feel confident in what I’m wearing.”
It sounds simple when you say it out loud. Almost like it shouldn’t be that hard. You might even laugh as you say it, brushing it off as something small.
But it rarely is.
It’s so very layered, because behind that sentence is usually a whole story. It’s layered with societal expectations, marketing messages and the expectation that all women should inherently know how to dress well.
It’s the feeling of standing in front of your wardrobe and not quite knowing what works anymore. It’s the pieces you’ve bought with good intentions but never reach for, or the outfits that look fine, but don’t feel like you. It’s the quiet sense that something isn’t quite clicking.
When you say you “want to feel confident in and through your clothes”, my answer is always a wholehearted YES! Because that really is the goal - regardless of what your signature style ends up being. This is the goal for every one of our styling sessions.
Over the years working as a personal stylist, I’ve realised how common this feeling is. Confidence in clothing is something so many women quietly struggle with. Not because you don’t care about how you look, and certainly not because you lack style. More often, it’s simply that no one has ever shown you what actually works for you.
Instead, there’s this frustrating unspoken expectation that you should just know. That getting dressed should come naturally, even when you’re focussing first on balancing how you want to feel over how you’re perceived.
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And so you find yourself changing outfits multiple times before leaving the house. Questioning pieces you thought would work. Standing there thinking… surely this shouldn’t be so difficult.
Getting dressed starts to feel uncertain in a way that’s hard to explain, especially to our partner waiting for us to head out the door. And it’s often only later, sometimes at the gentle suggestion of a partner or family member, that you decide it might be time to get some support.
Our bodies change constantly. Fashion changes all too quickly. Our lifestyle needs and wardrobes ebb and flow over the years. And yet, we’re expected to be able to choose clothes that truly work for our body, personality, job and lifestyle… without ever really being shown how. It rarely comes from glossy magazines or fashion marketing.
You might have plenty of clothes, yet still hesitate in front of your wardrobe.
You might try things on in a shop and feel deflated — not just by the sizing, but wondering if it’s even the right shape or style for you, or whether it’s a worthwhile investment.
And does the in-store salesperson genuinely think it looks good? Or are they simply being agreeable, or working towards a sale?
“Confidence in clothing is something so many women quietly struggle with. Not because you don’t care about how you look, and certainly not because you lack style. More often, it’s simply that no one has ever shown you what actually works for you.”
Have you ever had purchase regret?
Shopping can be exciting, and it’s easy to get swept up in the moment. Or maybe you’re in a hurry or fed up searching and decide, “this will do…” Either way, you end up with pieces you liked at the time, only to leave them hanging unworn months later.
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None of this happens because you don’t have style.
More often, it happens because no one has ever shown you how to build a wardrobe that works, or helped you define what your signature style really is.
Confidence in your clothes isn’t built through more shopping. It comes from knowing what works for you, and why.
“Confidence in your clothes isn’t built through more shopping. It comes from knowing what works for you, and why.
And once you begin to understand that - really understand it - something shifts. Getting dressed becomes easier. Shopping decisions become clearer. And that quiet confidence begins to show up in other parts of your life as well.”
And once you begin to understand that - really understand it - something shifts. Getting dressed becomes easier. Shopping decisions become clearer. And that quiet confidence begins to show up in other parts of your life as well.
And that’s when confidence in and through what you’re wearing stops feeling like a question, and starts feeling like something you know.
If you’d like help with that, Imogene and the Spree with Me Style Squad are here to support you.
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